6 Questions for finding Mr. Right

Ask Yuli

What questions should you ask yourself to determine whether someone is right for you? From my personal experience, I have made the following set of questions that should help finding Mr. Right.

Is he smart?

Is he well educated? Does he have a good sense of what is going on in the world? Can he apply his knowledge with wisdom in his daily life? The man that you looking for will be the head of the family and needs to be wise in making decisions. You should therefore find a man who is wise will be able to take that responsibility. "Blessed is the man who finds wisdom, the man who gains understanding" (Proverbs 3:13 - NIV)

Is he cute?

Do you find him attractive? Could you see yourselves as a couple? When you are married, you will be making love with eachother continuously and it would be great if you were attracted to him. "And you, my dear lover -- you're so handsome! And the bed we share is like a forest glen." (Songs of Solomon 1:16 - The Message)

Is he nice?

Does he love you and treat you well? Are you the most precious and special one to him? You deserve to be treated right with love and tenderness. Do not settle for someone who does not treat you right. Also, even if he is nice now, will he still be nice after getting married? You need to find a man who will make a commitment to love you no matter what happens and who is willing to sacrifice himself for you. "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" (Ephesians 5:25 - NIV)

Is he hard-working?

Is he responsible and diligent? When you are married he will be the primary person responsible to provide for the family. Make sure that he is dedicated to care for you and your future family. "Lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hands bring wealth." (Proverbs 10:4 - NIV)

How does he spend his money?

Does he go easily overboard in spending money or does he spend his money wisely? What kind of gifts does he give you? If he is extravagant and buys you expensive gifts like a $1700 Louis Vuitton purse, he may seem very nice to you, but not necessarily responsible with money. You need to find a man who is responsible with the money that God has given him. Someone who will not buy superfluous things, but someone who does invest wisely and gives back to the Lord and to charities. Make sure that he does not place money above you or God. "No servant can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money." (Luke 16:13 - NIV)

Does he share your faith?

If you are a Christian, is he a Christian too? This is the most important question to ask. Your faith is the most foundational part of your being. If everything else seems perfect, but he does not share your faith, then this man will not be the right one for you. Eventually your values will clash and you will have to face the consequences. However, if he is a Christian, then you have the same foundation, and you will have God's help and blessing to make this marriage work. Even for Christians, marriage will not be without problems. But when you are both grounded in Jesus, you are at least headed in the same direction. "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers." (2 Corinthians 6:14 - NIV)